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Tourist Day January 4, 2007

Filed under: All Ages, Baby, Holiday, JK-G6+, Reviews, creativity — Dayna @ 7:11 pm

I found once I had kids I got out a bit less. Sure it could be more if you counted the grocery store, but not so much to see the sights. It’s fun being a tourist in your own city. It’s amazing what you’ll find and experience right under your nose. Being a tourist is easy. Most people have been one before, you have a camera, look up a lot and hopefully discover something new.

It’s the second last day of Mad’s winter break. We’ve done so many crafts our scissors need sharpening, so then it occurred to me that we needed a good day out. She’s been hobnobbing with copious play dates but where does that leave Baz? Regardless we’ve also been having some record weather up here so it was time to play tourist for the day.

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We were literally on top of the world and Mad described her excellent day as a dream she had come true. How, as a current children’s entertainer, can I beat that?

Perhaps with a surprise appearance by their dad, spaghetti and mini ice cream cones?

It was really memorable, I hope, and it was great to get out again. Being a tourist with out the extended transport is fun and what’s best is that with the super abundant number of photos we snapped, we decided to skip books at bedtime and tell our own “Story of the Day”. We were able to share more with J, while he recorded the enthusiastic narrative to our slide show which he’ll overlay later.

All this and a keepsake too.

 

Another Breastfeeding Clinic Closure November 17, 2005

Filed under: Breastfeeding, General, Reviews — Dayna @ 12:36 pm

World-renowned pediatrician and breastfeeding specialist, Dr. Jack Newman is facing another clinic closure. Here in Toronto, The North York General Hospital Clinic’s closure comes on the heels of the Humber River Regional Hospital and St. Michael’s Hospital’s clinic closures, over the past two years.

According to the Globe and Mail article today, Glenn Berall, chief of pediatrics at North York General, said the hospital is closing the clinic so it can expand neonatal programs for its inpatients. What’s amazing to me is how they can just decide to remove the clinic, which is only open one day a week.

Obviously times haven’t changed. When I gave birth to Mad it was (not by choice) in a hospital. Naturally I was appreciative of the staff as they were there when we needed them but I do recall being treated like a vagina with a baby and once that baby was out and declared fit to live I didn’t hear or see of them again. Other than an orderly, the woman who takes the newborn hospital pictures and overcharges for them and one nurse who came in for about a minute and a half to discharge us I didn’t receive any extra assistance, I was on my own. I couldn’t understand when Mad was hungry let alone remember how to feed her. Thankfully three and a half years ago Dr. Newman’s clinics were still all open and when Mad started to lose weight I didn’t have to wait more than a day to get an appointment. The meeting was quick, to the point and the room was filled with people dying to learn from Dr. Newman. He was thoughtful and considerate to our circumstance and made himself personally available by email, and he meant it. The man is dedicated.

The above mentioned Globe and Mail article made note of Dr. Newman’s expertise but found the need to remark on a comment about his “abruptness” and may have suggested the closings had something to do with it. Either way the article ended negatively and it rubbed me the wrong way, so aftrer reading it, I wrote a letter to the editor:

Dear Sir,

Am I correct to assume that this article is suggesting that the breastfeeding clinic may have been shut down due to Dr. Newman’s abruptness? Ending the article by stating the other cutbacks and closures while mentioning Dr. Newman’s candour certainly does to me.

Dr. Newman is a pediatrician, author and breastfeeding guru yet he still makes the precious moments to help every woman whether it be with a quick email or a rushed clinic appointment. I know first hand as he helped me with my difficulty breastfeeding my first child. Responses were quick but so was the diagnosis. Dr. Newman knows what he is talking about and through the clinics is able to pass on his knowledge to other lactation consultants in residence. The information that he laid upon me allowed me to breastfeed my daughter successfully for as long as I wanted. He gave me confidence when beginning again with my son and pass on information to encourage other mothers.

It still amazes me that in this day and age the difficulty new mothers must face not only in adjusting to motherhood but overcoming the taboo of breastfeeding as well. As we’re no longer living in a communal society, so much of the information and support for new mothers once handed down is lost, leaving most parents to fend for themselves.

Dr. Newman is committed to helping mothers breastfeed and should be commended not shut down. Dr. Newman is not abrupt, he is a busy, one man army trying to work from these clinics to help and teach others. Where there is already a lack of support there is soon to be less and I feel your article should be focusing more on that. Your article had the opportunity to create a positive awareness about the situation, yet your article found the need to take an obtuse turn about one person’s comments.

 

I Want To Walk Up The Side Of The Mountain And Cry November 15, 2005

Filed under: General, Parenting, Reviews — jted @ 9:31 pm

Grandaddy's Artist's Choice, featuring The Nature Anthem

Daddy, I want to be in there! I want to be with the children dressed like bunnies.

For the first time ever, my daughter was not content to be who she is. She wanted to be somebody else, wearing a bunny suit, and dancing in the mountain/forest/hillside with happy people in animal suits. She cried inconsolably. The song affected her so deeply, so profoundly, that she desperately wanted to shed her current reality and dive into the screen. The pain and longing for something she could not be was overwhelming. I can sympathize with Mad by imagining a similar longing: the pain I know I will feel when she moves out on her own and I will not be able to see her smile when she wakes up or get little hugs or hold her hand anymore.

I try to remember back when I was her age, and put the size of her emotions into context. I know there were moments when my feelings were so large and out of control that I would cry just because there was so much to absorb, so much to feel, so much to process. I guess you could have called me a sensitive kid. But I remember having dreams when I was four years old about a little wise rabbit who came to visit me at my house. He was kind and loving and we played on the front steps and talked and I loved him more than anything in the universe. When I woke up, he was gone and I felt like my best friend had just died. I couldn’t get him back. I was sad for days and days. And here I am, almost 30 years later, and I still REMEMBER that feeling.

So when I see my own daughter wishing and wishing she could enter that happy place and play with the rabbits, my heart melts away. Dayna took her upstairs and dressed her up in a bunny costume we inherited, and we all jumped around the livingroom and listened to the song, and we danced and laughed and tried to create our own happy place, our own fantastic memories that hopefully she’ll look back on one day and remember when her kids feel those big emotions for the first time.

And now that I’ve got you all choked up and vulnerable, check out Grandaddy’s album at Amazon called Artist’s Choice. It’s a rather strange concept, but it’s essentially a mix tape of Grandaddy’s favourite songs by other artists (like Beck for instance). The Nature Anthem is the last song on the cd.

 

MadeleineZoe’s Best Bedtime Books for 3.5 Year Olds September 30, 2005

Filed under: Books, Reviews — jted @ 9:50 pm


As I was reading Mad’s picks for bedtime books, I realized that there was a certain theme to her selections. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but I thought if I went to Amazon and made a Listmania! list I might be able to figure it out. Besides, I like making lists. Well, after about an hour of trying to remember author’s names and what she likes, I was finished. Either Mad likes crazy artistic books about imaginative scenerios, or else Dayna and I do. What makes it truly genuine is the inclusion of a book that I can’t stand reading.

Here’s her list, which can also be viewed with comments at Amazon.com. What does your kid like to read before bed? Tell us their favourites and yours.

The Story of Frog Belly Rat Bone

Arnie, the Doughnut Arnie, the Doughnut

Olivia Olivia

The Cat in the Hat The Cat in the Hat

Green Eggs and Ham Green Eggs and Ham

The Boy Who Ate Around The Boy Who Ate Around

The English Roses The English Roses [kak!]

Lisa's Baby Sister Lisa’s Baby Sister (Misadventures of Gaspard and Lisa)

Super Sue Super Sue

Everyone Poops Everyone Poops